6 Common Mistakes Made In Filling Out The Notice of Intended Marriage

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The Notice of Intended Marriage (NOIM) is a difficult form to fill out. You can download the NOIM form here. And there are some common mistakes that are made on a regular basis while lodging a NOIM form.

Here’s how to avoid making them in the Notice of Intended Marriage.

Questions 2 and 3

Given names and surname. “Surname” means your last name or family name. “Given names” means your first name and any other names. Your name should be as it appears in your identifying document – that is, your passport or birth certificate and driver’s license. Your celebrant will be happy to call you by any other name throughout your marriage ceremony – for example, if your first name is Edward but everyone calls you Ed, then that’s fine. But your celebrant will need to say your full name once sometime during the ceremony.

Question 7

Conjugal status – this means, whether you’ve been married and divorced, or married and your partner has died, or whether you’ve never been married. In the last example, the words you need to insert in question 7 on the Notice are “never validly married”. And if you’ve been divorced or widowed, you’ll need to provide evidence of that to your celebrant.

NOIM form questions 6 to 8 Australia


Birthplace – at question 8, you need to put the same birthplace that appears on your passport, if you’re using that as your identifying document. If your passport doesn’t contain your city or town, or if you’re using your birth certificate and driver’s license as your identifying documents, then you need to show them to your celebrant – and write the relevant birthplace on the Notice.

At question 10 if you were born outside Australia, and if you’re coming to Australia to get married and then head home again, you need to put 0 years and 0 months. If you were born outside Australia, and if you live in Australia, at question 10 you need to put however many years and months you have lived here at the time of completing the Notice.

NOIM form questions 1o to 12 Australia

At question 11, write your father’s full name – first name, any middle names, and last name. If he’s dead, add the word “deceased” after his name.

At question 12, write your mother’s full name she was given when she was born – first name, any middle names, and last name. If she’s dead, add the word “deceased” after her name.

Page 3 of the NOIM form is as shown below:


Page 4 of the NOIM form is as shown below:


Spotify 2019’s Top Wedding & First Dance Song Playlists in Australia

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Wedding Band

Weddings are incomplete without the right kind of music. Well, technically that statement’s an exaggeration, but weddings are always a great opportunity to embellish at least a little bit!

The perfect wedding music has the potential to make the ambience of a wedding. Weddings are a perfect crescendo of a lot of emotions. The bride walking down the aisle is one emotion and the groom seeing the bride for the first time in her wedding dress, is another.

Each of these emotions needs a separate kind of song to amplify the feelings. My experience as a celebrant has taught me that the wrong selection of wedding songs can spoil the entire vibe for the day. A wedding without music is like pancakes without the maple syrup; beautiful yet not complete!


 A Mix of Different Playlists for your Wedding Mood
Mingle music for guests as they arrive and mingle
Wedding entrance songs playlist for bride and groom
The Signing of the register songs
Modern wedding songs with a twist
Unique First Dance Songs Playlist
Father & Daughter first dance song Playlist
Dance with Grandfather, brother songs Playlist
Mother & Son dance songs Playlist
Dance Songs Playlist for all ages
Wedding Reception Song Playlist
Trending Weddings songs by Artist
Saxophone wedding songs
Piano wedding songs
Wedding Singing Songs
Wedding Band Songs


I’ve tried to curate a mix of playlists for a wedding, based on different moods and different stages of the wedding.

1-Mingle music for guests as they arrive and mingle

Guests are the most important part of every wedding (apart from the couple getting married, of course). Couples want to share their wedding day with the people they care about and love the most. Guests come to a wedding with a lot of excitement and they bring joy to the wedding. They’re there for a great time!  The music mix that works best as guests arrive is a playlist of songs that are quietly upbeat and that allow the guests to chat as they settle down and re-acquaint themselves with each other.


2-Wedding entrance songs playlist for bride and groom

A wedding is not only an event, it’s a production! The bride’s entrance is arguably one of the most breathtaking and awe-inspiring moments of the whole wedding. This calls for some dramatic songs that enable the bride to make an entrance that’s a statement. It’s the time when all the eyes are on the bride as she walks up the aisle to be greeted by her groom and they both settle into the ceremony space. It makes for a highly emotional part of every couple’s big day. It calls for songs that touch the right chords and mean something to the couple. Each couple has a beautiful love story that they celebrate on this memorable day. These songs are a testament to the story they share and cherish.



3- Signing of the marriage certificate songs

The signing of the marriage certificate is another really memorable part of a wedding. It usually occurs straight after the couple has said their vows and exchanged their rings. It is often the first time that day when the couple can relax and talk to each other in a chilled, informal (and, no doubt, relieved) way. By this time, the formal part of the wedding is over and so, depending on the couple, their signing music can be relaxed or can provide a genuine sense of occasion, as it’s the time when the legal certificate of marriage is signed. It’s also the time, of course, when the first congratulations are offered to the couple. The music needs to reflect whatever vibe the couple wants at this time of their ceremony.


4- Modern wedding songs with a twist

It goes without saying that there’s no shortage of wedding songs – the trick is to find those that mean something to both of you and those that touch your souls. Here are some to consider, that has a bit of a twist . . .


5- Unique First Dance Songs Playlist

The first dance between the newly married couple is a moment that’s waited for, not only by the guests but also, of course, by the couple. It’s a pivotal moment of the couple’s wedding celebrations. It’s also a mark of their love and unity and the official opening of dancing – after it’s taken place, everyone else can join in.


6- Father & Daughter first dance song Playlist

There are many dances that are incorporated into a wedding. Some of them are just for pure enjoyment. Some of them – like the first dance between a father and his newly married daughter – signify love and letting go. It’s a wedding tradition that the bride’s father will have his first dance with his daughter and, mid-way, hand off his daughter to her new husband, showing both the love between the father and daughter and the trust and acceptance he shares with his son-in-law.


7- Dance with Grandfather, brother, son, or perhaps a new step-son songs Playlist

As mentioned earlier, weddings a great excuse for a party – and for dancing. Some wedding dances celebrate new relationships; others cherish old ones. There can be dances between the bride and her loving grandfather or the new bride and her stepson. It’s a subtle way of telling the other person that they’re loved and accepted.


8- Mother & Son dance songs Playlist

Mothers share a unique relationship with their sons and they play many significant roles in each other’s lives. It’s emotional for a mother to know that their son is not a child anymore, yet they’re happy to have someone new in their family who loves their son equally. These songs are meant to be emotional yet celebratory enough to keep the spirits and emotions running high.


9- Dance Songs Playlist for all ages

Most of us love dancing, no matter our age, sex, background or cultural beliefs. Dance has the power to bring people together – and weddings do that effortlessly. Everybody is already in the mood for celebration and good music can only take things forward from there.


10- Wedding Reception Song Playlist

The wedding ceremony is over and everybody’s danced to their heart’s content. The next obvious thing to happen is for some comfortable seating and some great food while everyone unwinds. The wedding reception is an occasion to celebrate the completion of the wedding and to show hospitality to the guests. This is when the couple shows their gratitude to their friends and family as a married couple.


11- Trending Weddings songs by Artist

  1. Ed Sheeran wedding songs
  2. Elvis weddings songs
  3. Jason Mraz wedding songs
  4. Christina Perri wedding songs
  5. Triple J hottest wedding songs

A wedding reception gives the couples the chance to play the latest wedding songs to keep their guests entertained throughout the night. Ed Sheeran’s wedding songs are a class apart and manage to impress people of all ages. But, of course, there are other popular options available also.


12- Saxophone wedding songs

There’s nothing more romantic than the silky smooth tone of a slow, jazzy saxophone playing in the background. Their magical sound puts people in the mood for some light swaying to the tunes and automatically brings a smile to people’s faces.


13- Piano wedding songs

Piano wedding songs are a class apart. They relax people without dampening the mood. And they allow a gentle conversation to happen, over a gorgeous meal. A good piano track will invite the guests to just unwind, smile and enjoy.


14- Wedding Singing Songs

Music in itself is great, but some are better than the others. You can play wedding singing songs that your guests sing along to. There are some great Spotify wedding songs that you can depend on.


15- Wedding Band Songs

Depending on your budget, some weddings include live wedding bands based as entertainment. Another option is to choose songs from some of the most iconic bands.

A Guide On Planning Your Backyard Wedding

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It will reflect the real you

Couples who choose to have a backyard wedding are often those who want a wedding that genuinely reflects them and avoids many of the trappings typically associated with the wedding industry. They are keen to bring together their closest friends and family members to witness and celebrate what is arguably one of the most important days of their lives. And where better to do that than in their own backyard!

It will save you money

Whether you want to have a backyard wedding in your own backyard or in the backyard of a family member or friend, as soon as you commit to this style of wedding, you reduce how much you need to spend on things like: venue hire; packages demanding you pay a certain amount per guest; décor and flowers; catering; car hire; and wedding attire.

Of course, your pets can come!

Your pets are your family. They deserve to be at and included in your special day. Imagine trying to bring a pet to a wedding venue – there’d be so many layers of red tape, you’d normally just give up on the idea. And your poor old pet is left at home while you get married. But if you have a backyard wedding, there are no barriers to including them. They know the venue. In fact, if it’s your backyard where you’re getting married, they live there! And when they’ve decided they’ve seen enough people for one day and cosied up to as many as they wish to, they can simply go back inside their own turf and have a snooze.

Your day is your day, not the venue’s

If you’re having a backyard wedding, then you obviously have control over the availability of the backyard. It’s that simple. One thing we know about traditional wedding venues is that they get booked out 18 months or more ahead, especially in the peak wedding season. And you can pay up to $8000 just for the pleasure of stepping foot inside the venue. In your own backyard, there’s no such issue. Decide when you want to get married, put it in your calendar, and send out your ‘save the dates’. You’re on the way to getting married!


You can invite who you want and keep it as small as you want




Often, backyard weddings are smaller than those conducted in a wedding venue. They can range from a tiny celebration with a handful of guests to a larger gathering of perhaps 50 people – however many can fit comfortably in the backyard. One of the key determinants of the size of the backyard wedding will be the size of the backyard. You want your guests to be comfortable, rather than cramped, no matter how large your guest list. Just a note: it’s important to make sure your backyard is accessible for people in wheelchairs – and that it’s safe and smooth for people who are frail or lack mobility.

The emotional factor

You know your backyard better than anyone else does. You’ve spent countless hours there, throwing the ball to your dog, enjoying a glass of wine, having endless barbecues, weeding the flower garden or vegetable garden and, of course, mowing the lawns. It’s a place that reflects you. So, instantly, you’ll feel relaxed and ‘at home’ there, which will take some of the nervousness out of your wedding day.

Other considerations . . .

The weather

One important thing to consider, if you’re getting married in a backyard, is the weather. You must have a Plan B, in case it’s extremely hot, or very windy, or if there’s thunder and lightning or rain. So, perhaps think about what will happen if one of these weather events occurs – and it could easily occur. Will you have room in the house for all your guests to see and hear the ceremony? Will it impact on catering and other pre- or post-ceremony activities? Will you need to transfer to another location for your Plan B? And, finally, don’t ignore it and think it won’t happen. Whatever your hopes, you need a Plan B.

Getting the backyard ready

Is your backyard in a nice enough state for it to be the venue for your wedding? Do you need to do some repairs, alterations or maintenance? How major are they? Do you have the budget to do them? Do you have the time to do them? And, most importantly, do you have the willpower to do them? Are the weeds overgrown so much that it just seems like a task that’s too daunting to fix? Is the backyard full of nice lawn or bricks or pot plants to make it attractive enough without the need to hire other things that might make it more attractive? All of these things are points to have discussions about, in the planning of your wedding.

The power of love

Think about the power requirements of your backyard wedding. Will you need power for a sound system? Cooking and catering? Heating or cooling? Is your domestic power supply able to handle these needs or will you have to bring in a generator? And, if so, consider the noise of a generator standing in or close to your backyard. What will be the impact of that?

Those pesky neighbours

Think If you get on with your neighbours, consider inviting them to your wedding. If you’re not so close to them, then at the very least, let them know you’re going to be having a backyard wedding and there may be some extra noise generated by you and your guests. Give them plenty of notice so they can make alternative arrangements if they wish. And, after the day, write them or visit them to say thank you for their cooperation.

When you have to go

How many toilets are in your house? Will they accommodate the number of guests you’re expecting? Will you need to hire a portable toilet or two? Consider accessibility again, in doing so. And don’t forget – any extra toilets will take up more space either in or close to your backyard.








Photos by Tanya Voltchanskaya – http://www.tanyavoltweddings.com

What are Wedding Vows?

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Often, I get asked by couples to explain exactly what wedding vows are. It’s not unexpected or surprising that lots of people don’t know what vows are, particularly if they’ve not been married before or if they’ve not been involved in a civil marriage ceremony before.

Essentially, vows are promises or pledges you make to each other. There are several types of vows that can be included in a marriage ceremony. One of those types, the legal vows, are mandatory.

wedding vows

The Legal Vows

A marriage ceremony will always include, by law, the legal vows or words to this effect – which must be said by each person getting married: “I ask everyone here to witness that I, AB, take you, CD, to be my lawful husband (or wife or spouse or partner in marriage) and I ask everyone here to witness that I, CD, take you, AB, to be my lawful husband (or wife or spouse or partner in marriage”. This is a requirement of the Marriage Act 1961 and is one of several factors that must be met in order for a couple to be considered legally married, in Australia.

The Personal Vows

Many couples also choose to make some other, more personal promises to each other straight after the legal vows – these are known as personal vows.

Usually, the personal vows begin with some nice words to each other that they have written before the ceremony. Often, these personal words are about how each person feels about the other; they might include some favourite memories of their time together; they might mention some of the awful habits they each have, as well as the gorgeous things that keep them loving each other; they might include how falling in love with their partner has led to a positive change in one of them; or they might tell of some challenges they’ve both overcome together, and so on.

Following that, the true promises or vows begin. These are promises that the couple commit to keeping. They can be as serious or as hilarious as you want. There are no rules about personal vows other than they need to be doable or achievable, they need to be authentic, and they need to reflect you as a couple.

Oh, and your personal vows can be combined with your ring exchange, if you’re giving each other rings during your ceremony. For example, you can say your personal vows to each other as you put the wedding rings on each other’s finger.

Can we keep our personal vows secret from each other?

Some couples like to inject an element of surprise by keeping their personal vows secret from each other until they say them on their wedding day. The go-between in this situation is your celebrant. They can help you write your personal vows, and will be able to provide you with heaps of samples, to give you an idea of what personal vows can look like. They can also be the mediator, if one of you writes vows that are very funny and the other writes vows that are completely serious; or if one of you writes two pages and the other writes a 10 lines. In both those cases, a good celebrant will make you both aware, without divulging the content, and then let you both decide if one or both of you need to change what you’ve written.

What’s the difference between personal vows and “the asking”?

Lots of couples include three pieces – one after the other – in their wedding ceremony:

  • the legal vows
  • the personal vows
  • the asking.

The asking is a traditional part of the wedding ceremony. It’s the part where the couple get to say to each other “I do” at the end of some words. Those words could be something like, “A, do you give yourself to B, to be (her / his / their) (husband / wife / spouse), to live together in marriage, to love, comfort and protect (her / him / them) in sickness and in health and, forsaking all others, keep only unto (her / him / them) as long as you both shall live?” Response: “I do!”

Your celebrant will be able to show you a variety of samples of The Asking, and you should feel comfortable in amending them to better suit your needs, if you choose to have an Asking.

Remember, only the legal vows are required by law. Whether you decide to have personal vows and an asking is completely up to you.

A Guide To Renewing Your Vows

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Why renew your vows?

At some stage in their married lives, lots of couples get to a point where they consider or decide to renew their marriage vows.

For some, it coincides with a significant wedding anniversary – perhaps 10 years or 25 years; or a significant birthday (50, 60 or 70 years of age, for example). And one or both parties decide it’d be a nice thing to do, or a romantic thing to do, to remind each other why they decided to get married in the first place. It gives them a formal chance, in front of family and friends, to re-pledge what they promised to each other all those years ago.

For others, it might mark the end of a stressful or rough patch in the relationship and they just want to celebrate getting through that period by again proclaiming their love for each other.

Others want to freshen up their relationship and say to their married partner some promises they were prohibited from saying when they got married in a church.

Sometimes, one party wants to surprise the other by setting up what is essentially a highly romantic party and celebration. A word of warning about this. The excited party needs to somehow be certain that their partner will want to also renew their vows. There are some married couples who, when asked if they’d ever want to renew their vows, have said quite firmly they’d walk out if “such a stunt” was put on them by their partner, as a surprise. Not everyone wants to renew their vows!

vow renewing

What steps do I need to take to renew my vows?

Having decided to renew your vows, the first step is to choose a celebrant who is willing to work with you to draft and then deliver a renewal of vows ceremony. Whilst it may seem easy to have a renewal of vows, if it’s to be truly meaningful and memorable, then it can take almost as much prep work as a wedding – but without all the usual associated trappings.

One of the nice things about a renewal of vows ceremony is that there are no rules. There are no legal aspects to be covered off; there is no paperwork. And so the world is your oyster as far as what the ceremony will include and look like.

That brings us to the second step – decide on the atmosphere you wish to create for the ceremony. Where will it be held? Will it be at home? Or in a hall? Or a venue that both of you cherish? And when will you have it? After work on a weeknight, followed by some nice food and celebratory drinks? Or on a Saturday evening just before you have a lovely dinner? Do you want your ceremony to be lavish and complex or brief and simple? The choice is yours. That will help you decide who and how many guests you will invite. Will it be only close family members and a few friends? Or do you want to invite people who were part of your wedding, to help rekindle some of those original memories?

What’s included in a renewal of vows?

Having decided on those things, the third step is to sit with your celebrant and begin outlining what you’re after in your renewal of vows ceremony. Because there are no legal aspects to your renewal of vows, you can pretty much include whatever you want.

Obviously, there’d be a welcome and a few words about why you’re having a renewal of vows, and why at this particular point in your marriage.

You may wish to include a non-religious reading or two that summarise your feelings about your relationship, your marriage and each other as committed life partners. Your celebrant will be able to show you a diversity of samples of such readings for you to choose from.

At some point, you will say your vows to each other. This is the core of your vows renewal. Again, your celebrant will be able to help you out by showing you samples of such vows. They can be as formal – or not – as you wish and, of course, there’s room for lots of humour, if that’s your preference. A renewal of vows allows you to come to this point with much deeper understanding and love of each other than you had when you first said your marriage vows. So your renewal of vows ceremony will be richer for the fact that there’s now so much wisdom and experience, as a married couple, that you can draw upon.

Finally, after saying your vows to each other, you may wish to open it up to members of your family or close friends to say some warm words about you on this happy occasion.

Perhaps you may also want to engage with your guests during the ceremony by getting them to say an affirmation of support for you both as you head into the next phase your married life. Your celebrant will be able to explain this to you.

Your ceremony would typically close with some nice words about the importance of what’s just taken place, and best wishes for continued happiness in your marriage. And you would typically thank people formally for coming to share in this important occasion.

How do we recreate the atmosphere of our wedding?

A good celebrant will try to recreate at least some of the atmosphere around the original marriage ceremony – minus the legal parts, of course. They’ll investigate what the weather was on your wedding day, and ask you about a host of other things:

  • perhaps the lead-up to your wedding – was there a buck’s party and hen’s night?
  • where the wedding was held and how many guests there were
  • who you chose to be your bridesmaids and groomsmen, and why – and, if appropriate, whether you’ve kept in touch with them
  • cars used to transport the bridal party to the wedding
  • what the bride’s wedding dress looked like
  • what the bridesmaids were wearing
  • the wedding’s colour scheme
  • the flowers in the bouquets
  • what the groom and his groomsmen wore
  • hymns or other songs that were played and sung
  • any readings that may have been included
  • where the reception was held
  • the name of the band that played while people danced the night away
  • the food that was served to guests at the reception
  • the wedding cake and who made it
  • who made speeches and, perhaps, some funny things that were said
  • where you stayed for your first night as a married couple
  • where you went on your honeymoon.

As well, they’ll likely ask you about any memorable things that happened during your wedding ceremony – or perhaps the reception. The more open you can be – and the more giving you are – the better and more enjoyable will be your renewal of vows ceremony.

Often couples who have had a renewal of vows tell me that the ceremony helped re-energize and re-boot their relationship. It’s a time to look back on what you’ve created in your marriage, the joys and highlights that you’ve both shared, as well as the challenges that you’ve overcome.


What are the legal requirements to get married in Australia?

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You decided to get married, now what? Well, apart from planning a wedding, there are some legal things like legal requirements that you need to consider.

In Australia, the federal government regulates marriage through the Marriage Act 1961 and the Marriage Regulations 1963.

If you’re planning on getting married in Australia, the legal requirements are the same. You don’t have to be an Australian citizen or a permanent resident of Australia to marry in Australia. If you’re from outside Australia, you and hope to live in Australia after your marriage, you can find marriage visa information here.

If you’re from a country outside Australia, please check to see if your country needs its Embassy to grant you permission before you get married, in order for them to recognise your Australian marriage as per the legal requirements.

This can have implications for people who are not Australian citizens – particularly LGBTQIA couples – who intend to return to their country after getting married in Australia.

If your marriage involves an Australian citizen and a non-Australian citizen, you should get advice about immigration matters from the Australian Department of Home Affairs or a registered migration agent.

Also, please check out this migration blog by Migration Agent, Nick Hansen. It has some useful information about migrating to Australia.

How is ‘marriage’ defined in Australia?

The Marriage Act 1961 defines marriage as ‘the union of two people to the exclusion of all others, voluntarily entered into for life’. This new definition became law on 9 December 2017. State and territory governments have been required to align their laws and regulations with this new definition. (At the time marriage equality became law in Australia, some state-based laws and regulatory requirements made it more difficult for some members of the LGBTQIA community to assert their right to get married than the majority of the population. That has now been fixed.)

What are the minimum legal requirements to get married in Australia?

To be married in Australia, you must:

  • not be married to someone else
  • not be marrying a parent, grandparent, child, grandchild, brother or sister (including by adoption)
  • be at least 18 years old, unless a court has approved a marriage where one party is between 16 and 18 years old. Approval will not be given if both parties are below 16 years
  • understand what marriage means
  • freely consent to getting married
  • use specific words during the ceremony
  • give your celebrant written notice of your intention to marry, within the required time frame. I clarify this further in the next section.

Your marriage celebrant will be able to explain each of these conditions to you in more detail.

What are the legal steps I need to take to get married in Australia?

Step 1: Complete and sign the Notice of Intended Marriage (NOIM)

The first thing you need to do is fill out a Notice of Intended Marriage (NOIM). Download one here: https://www.ag.gov.au/FamiliesAndMarriage/Marriage/Documents/New-notice-of-intended-marriage.pdf

There are notes on the NOIM to help you fill it out. You should read those notes, as you complete the NOIM.

What evidence do I need to provide?

You need to satisfy your celebrant needs that you and your partner are who you say you are. The evidence they need from you is:

  • evidence of your place and date of birth and evidence of your identity. You can use your passport for this, if you have one, or you can provide your driver’s licence and birth certificate).
  • if one or both of you were before married, evidence of your divorce or death of a previous partner. If you have been married more than once, then you only need to provide evidence of the most recent divorce or the death of your most recent partner.

What are the terms used in the NOIM?

Both parties to the marriage need to tick one of three boxes that best describes them: ‘groom’, ‘bride’ or ‘partner’. It’s up to each party to decide which option they want to use to describe themselves. For example, it’s completely fine for a person who identifies as a male to tick ‘bride’ or a person who identifies as a female to tick “groom”.

Do I need to provide evidence of my sex?

The celebrant doesn’t need to see evidence of your sex. Nor is it appropriate for your celebrant to question the sex or gender that’s recorded on a passport or driver’s licence. The NOIM allows individuals to identify as female, male or as a gender other than the sex they were assigned at birth or to identify as ‘other than female or male’. In that case, they can tick the box labelled ‘X’. Your celebrant should be sensitive enough to understand that people may hold conflicting documents – for example, people who identify as ‘X’ may wish to have a different gender recorded in their passport to ensure their safety whilst travelling overseas. The question confuses the terms “sex” and “gender”. The term “sex” is an old medical term that relied on the existence of genitalia – if you had a penis, you were a male; if you had a vagina, you were a female. This “binary” view of the world is outdated and doesn’t acknowledge that not everyone is born with a penis or a vagina. Intersex people, for example, aren’t. And people’s ‘sex’ has nothing to do with their gender identity or their sexuality. Whilst there is some indignation about a range of non-binary “sexes” being combined together under an erasing ‘X’, that’s the current public policy position of the Australian government. I’ve commented on this in further detail in a separate blog post.

What do I need to do if I’m living in Australia?

When you’ve completed the details in the NOIM, ask one of the following to witness your signatures: a police officer (Australian Federal Police or state / territory police), a barrister or solicitor, a legally qualified medical practitioner (note: this doesn’t include a pharmacist or dentist), or a Justice of the Peace. You can then post it or email it to your marriage celebrant. Or you can meet with your celebrant and get them to witness you signing the NOIM. They can even help you fill out the NOIM, if you wish.

What do I need to do if I’m living outside Australia?

If you’re living outside Australia and are planning on getting married in Australia, then when you’ve finished completing the details in the NOIM, you can either get your signatures witnessed by an Australian Consular Officer, and Australian Diplomatic Officer, a notary public, an employee of the Commonwealth authorized under paragraph 3(c) of the Consular Fees Act 1955, or an employee of the Australian Trade Commission authorized under paragraph 3(d) of the Consular Fees Act 1955.

You can search for a marriage celebrant on the official Attorney Generals Department website.

Your celebrant must receive your NOIM no later than one month before your wedding day. The lifespan of the NOIM is 18 months – that is, you can get married at any time between one month and eighteen months from when your celebrant receives your signed and witnessed NOIM.

What if I need to get married before the one month is due?

If there are extenuating circumstances that mean you need to get married within a month of your celebrant receiving your NOIM, you can apply to a prescribed authority (check out https://marriage.ag.gov.au/stateofficers/authorities) to see if it will approve a shortening of the notice time. There are only five circumstances that can lead to a shortening of time. No other circumstances are able to be considered by the prescribed authority. And there is no guarantee that any application for a shortening of time will be successful.

The five categories of circumstances set out in the Regulations are:

  • Employment-related, or other travel commitments
  • Wedding or celebration arrangements, or religious considerations
  • Medical reasons
  • Legal proceedings, and
  • Error in giving notice

When making a decision, the Prescribed Authority will consider and assess the information provided in support of your application and may seek more information. If you’re going to apply for a shortening of time, get prepared.

Make sure you’ve got all the necessary documentation that supports your request, before approaching a Prescribed Authority.

What steps do I need to take in applying for a shortening of time?

  • Contact a marriage celebrant who is willing to conduct a ceremony at short notice.
  • Complete a Notice of Intended Marriage (NOIM) and provide it to the celebrant (see earlier section on this). Make sure you don’t sign the NOIM until you are in the presence of the celebrant or other approved witness.
  • Choose a date and time for the ceremony – this can be changed, if necessary.
  • Ask the celebrant to supply you with a letter of support stating they have received a valid NOIM from you and is willing and available to conduct your marriage ceremony on the date and time nominated, provided the approval of shortening of time is granted.
  • Go to a Prescribed Authority to request a shortening and take the NOIM with you so that it can be signed by the Prescribed Authority. When you receive approval for the shortening, you must return the signed NOIM to your celebrant.
  • Make sure you take all documents that you would require to be married (passports, or birth certificates + driver’s licences, divorce papers/death certificates, as relevant) and documentary evidence to support your reason for applying for the shortening, such as medical reports, employer’s evidence, wedding receipts etc.

Step 2: The Declaration of No Legal Impediment to Marriage

You need to sign the Declaration of No Legal Impediment to Marriage (DONLIM) as close as possible to your wedding day. The DONLIM is a legal declaration that both of you are of marriageable age, are not in a prohibited relationship, are not married to someone else, and are not aware of any other legal impediment to your marriage taking place. Often, celebrants will get you to sign the DONLIM at a wedding rehearsal within the week before your wedding. Some celebrants might ask you to sign it immediately before your wedding ceremony on the day of your wedding. It is unlawful for you to sign the DONLIM after your marriage ceremony has taken place.

Step 3: The Official Certificate of Marriage (x2) and Certificate of Marriage

On the day of your wedding, immediately after your marriage ceremony, you, your two witnesses and your celebrant will sign three marriage certificates. Two of these are the Official Certificate of Marriage and the other is a Certificate of Marriage (also called a Presentation Certificate). After you, your two witnesses and the celebrant have signed all three certificates, the celebrant will hand you the Certificate of Marriage – it is a record of your marriage that you can keep.

Within 14 days, the celebrant must provide your paperwork (the NOIM, the Declaration and one of the Official Certificates of Marriage) to the Registry of Births, Deaths and Marriages in the jurisdiction where the marriage took place, so they can register your marriage. (Your celebrant must keep one copy of the Official Certificate of Marriage in a secure place for 6 years).

When the Registry has registered your marriage, you can apply for a copy of the registered Official Certificate of Marriage through the Registry of Births, Deaths and Marriages in the state or territory where you got married. Your celebrant will likely inform you when your marriage has been registered.

What if I’m getting married overseas?

If you’re planning to get married overseas, remember you can’t then come back to Australia and get married again. You can have a commitment ceremony, or a renewal of vows ceremony back here in Australia but whoever conducts that ceremony must make it clear to all who attend it that the ceremony is not a legal marriage ceremony.

If you want to get married overseas and want to involve a marriage celebrant from Australia, you need to be aware that marriage celebrants authorised in Australia can only perform legal marriages within Australia. Some overseas destinations – eg the USA – may allow Australians (including Australian celebrants) to meet their requirements to become an officiant and perform legal marriage ceremonies – but you need to carefully consider what those requirements are and be satisfied with the legalities of doing so, before proceeding. An alternative is to have an authorised marriage celebrant marry you in Australia before you head overseas and then you can have a “wedding” – without the legal vows – in your chosen overseas destination, along with a celebration, perhaps.

Will my overseas marriage be recognised in Australia?

Although lots of overseas marriages are recognised in Australia, overseas marriages cannot be registered in Australia, and the marriage certificate you will be issued with when you get married overseas will be your evidence that the marriage took place. As with all Certificates of Marriage, it’s your responsibility to ensure you keep this certificate in a secure place as it may not be easy to replace if lost and it provides the only evidence of your marriage.

An overseas marriage will generally be recognised in Australia if it:

  • was a valid marriage in the overseas country where the marriage ceremony took place.
  • would have been recognised as valid under Australian law if the marriage had taken place in Australia.

Useful information for LGBTQIA couples thinking of getting married overseas can be found in this SmartTraveller’s blog.

For further information, I would recommend you to know more about planning an overseas wedding.

Is my overseas same-sex marriage recognised in Australia?

The Marriage Act 1961 recognises existing and future same-sex marriages solemnised overseas under the law of a foreign country. Same-sex marriages solemnised in Australia by a diplomatic or consular officer under the law of a foreign country before 9 December 2017 are also recognised. A couple whose foreign same-sex marriage is recognised in Australia cannot marry each other again in Australia, unless there is a doubt as to the validity of the foreign marriage. You can have a commitment ceremony, or a renewal of vows ceremony back here in Australia but whoever conducts that ceremony must make it clear to all who attend it that the ceremony is not a legal marriage ceremony.


What’s the language used in the Australian legal marriage vows, for members of the LGBTQIA community, in particular?

The legal vows that must be said by each party to each other, during their marriage ceremony, in the presence of the celebrant and the two witnesses are as follows:

‘I call upon the persons here present to witness that I, A.B. (or C.D.), take thee, C.D. (or A.B.), to be my lawful wedded wife (husband or spouse)’; or words to that effect.

Under subsection 45(2) of The Marriage Act 1961, marrying couples can make a personal choice about the terms to be used in their marriage vows that best reflect their relationship. The following wording substitutions and changes are acceptable given the inclusion of ‘words to that effect’ in subsection 45(2):

  • ‘husband’, or ‘wife’ or ‘spouse’ may be changed to ‘partner in marriage’
  • ‘call upon’ may be changed to ‘ask’
  • ‘persons’ may be changed to ‘people’
  • ‘thee’ may be changed to ‘you’
  • ‘persons here present’ may be changed to ‘everyone here’ or ‘everybody here’ or ‘everyone present here’ or ‘everybody present here’, or
  • the couple may leave out either ‘lawful’ or ‘wedded’, but not both

It is completely lawful for the following vows to be said by LGBTQIA couples, who may find the use of the gendered terms ‘husband’, ‘wife’ and ‘spouse’ offensive, and who wish to have a more contemporary set of vows that better reflects how they live their lives:

‘I ask everyone here to witness that I, A.B. (or C.D.), take you, C.D. (or A.B.), to be my lawful partner in marriage’.


‘I ask everyone present here to witness that I, A.B. (or C.D.), take you, C.D. (or A.B.), to be my wedded partner in marriage’.

Why we should avoid using the terms “same sex marriage” and “same sex wedding”

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Until the postal vote was announced as the mechanism by which Australians would decide whether or not all Australians would be given the right to marry in Australia, the terms “same sex marriage” and “same sex wedding” had rarely appeared in public debate. The battle-lines had been drawn on either side of the much broader and inclusive term, “marriage equality”. The introduction of the term “marriage equality” into the debate some years prior had been a masterstroke by the team advocating for equal rights for all Australians. The people who introduced and normalised its use were clever enough to understand that a majority of Australians would support it as they’d know that the denial or refusal of it meant we weren’t giving all Australians a fair go, one of the main social mores that underpin Australian society.

And so, when the Liberal and National Party coalition introduced the term “same sex marriage” into the debate, it knew that it was appealing to the conservative heartland and its hatred of this thing called ‘same sex’ or ‘homosexuality’. Those views and the vile homophobia they encouraged had been relegated to the past.

Or so we thought, until the term “same sex marriage” was reintroduced at the start of the postal vote period. The one thing that term has going for it is that it’s well branded – most people have an idea of what’s meant when it’s used. It also rolls off the tongue easily. And that’s the main reason the media picked up on it and used it so readily during the postal vote period.

So what’s wrong with using it, now that we have marriage equality?

There are three main things wrong with it:

  1. It relies on and reinforces an outdated view of the existence of the simplistic binary form of ‘sex’ – same sex implies a male marrying a male or a female marrying a female. What about someone who is indeterminate? And, whilst we know that gender identification is different from ‘sex’, the problem with using ‘same sex’ it also potentially excludes people who identify as bisexual, intersex, trans or genderfluid, who may or not marry someone of the ‘same sex’. By using the term “same sex”, we’re invalidating or, worse still, erasing other genders that exist.
  2. In a narrow sense, it reinforces latent homophobia. In recent decades, LGBTI+ advocates and activists had worked hard to avoid using terms associated with “sex” as they hearken back to when homophobes’ fear and repugnance of anal sex (also known as homosexual acts) led to Acts of Parliament being passed to make it illegal to carry them out or be associated with them. For many years, those views were reinforced by the police and the judiciary, further isolating and marginalising LGBTI+ people. And so to continue using terms that take us back decades to what were very dark times for the LGBTI+ community is a regressive step.
  3. It reduces the significance of the fact that the fight for marriage equality was always about that – giving all Australians the same rights at law, rather than continuing the homophobia-based denial of those rights to members of the rainbow community. The use of “same sex marriage” was an attempt to convince Australians that it was simply gay men who wanted to marry gay men and lesbians who wanted to marry lesbians rather than acknowledging and embracing the diversity within our community – and, of course, there were those hysterically wrong predictions about how many LGBTI+ couples would get married and the economic boon that would follow, as evidence that we we all going to rush (dare I say, mince!) to the pink altar along a rainbow encrusted aisle! But the reality is that lots of LGBTI+ couples don’t want to marry – and never will. And even though not all of our LGBTI+ community are ‘same sex’, an overwhelming majority within that community sure as heck did want the right to marry.

The Main Things I Have Found in Working with LGBTI Couples Getting Married

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Main finding #1: Many LGBTI couples are private and closeted

As I am about to take my 50th LGBTI wedding booking since marriage equality became law in Australia, one of the main things I have found is that lots of LGBTI couples looking to get married are very private people – and deeply closeted.

And, in a way, that’s hardly surprising. Given the amount of harassment, vitriole, discrimination and vilification that LGBTI people have had to endure for much of their lives, it’s simply safer for couples to remain in the closet. It protects them and their privacy. It’s a way in which they can take control and maintain a level of comfort and safety within their lives. And whilst it’s easy for those in the broader community who have never been discriminated against or led a closeted life to judge them for continuing to live their lives in the closet (“I think it’s so sad” or “why can’t they just admit they’re gay and get on with their lives?”), such judgement indicates a low level of engagement with the diverse community that is the LGBTI population.

LGBTI people are emerging from decades when it was not only a societal norm to view LGBTI people as a group to be spurned, hated and reviled, but the legislative framework in Australia condoned it, backed up, of course by the police and the judiciary. And so, it should surprise no-one that a proportion of our rainbow community remains deeply private and fundamentally untrusting of those institutions. And whilst it is easy – almost patronisingly flippant – for people who don’t belong to the LGBTI community to say that marriage equality is here, that we should be grateful for that and we should now all just get on with our lives and treat everyone the same, to make such a suggestion underlines just how little such people understand the rainbow community.

The attainment of marriage equality was always going to be only one more little step in the path towards genuine equality for LGBTI people. Moreover, the process by which it was gained, providing 80% of Australians with an opportunity to vote on whether or not LGBTI people should have the same legal rights as every other Australian when it came to marriage, also gave the nay-sayers the social and political licence to go in hard against that right. And, predictably, they did. The harassment and discrimination during the period of the postal vote did enormous damage to members of the LGBTI community.

And it will take years to recover from that. It’s not just the rainbow community that will take time to heal – when daggers were thrown at us during that debate, those daggers also went through the hearts of our friends, allies and supporters, erasing progress in social justice and trust that had been built in the years prior.

So, next time a deeply private LGBTI couple comes to me as a wedding supplier, as someone who lived a closeted life for more than four decades, I can truly say that I understand – indeed empathise – with them and their decision to remain closeted. It behoves other wedding suppliers to do the same, if they’re serious about providing products and services to the LGBTI community in a respectful way.

Let’s get the language right, now that we have marriage equality in Australia

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I write the following as a cisgender gay male, who is also an authorised marriage celebrant. I also am the co-founder of The Equality Network (wwwtheequalitynetwork.com.au) which has been established to educate straight wedding suppliers and others about how to work respectfully with LGBTI+ couples.

Currently, discussions are taking place between representatives of of celebrant associations in Australia and the Attorney General’s Department. Some of these discussions are focused on the wording of the Marriage Act 1961 associated with the recent amendments that enabled marriage equality to take place in Australia – eg whether or not the wording in the legal vows should be broadened to include terminology more pertinent to LGBTI+ couples.  

I must say that I find it unbelievable that discussions about the LGBTI+ community are being held and decisions affecting us are being made by a group consisting predominantly of cis straight people. As someone who has been a career senior public servant, I know that good policy (where it affects people) is created in collaboration with the people being affected. But not in this case. Imagine policy and legislation being created that affected indigenous people without any consultation or opportunity for input by indigenous people. Privileged straight people shouldn’t get to make decisions that affect LGBTI+ people, by themselves. But it continues to happen. And that fact is an indicator of how far we still have to go until LGBTI+ people has equal rights with other Australians.

The wording in the legal vows

Let’s be clear about the fact that marriage and the entire wedding industry that has evolved around it, is highly gendered. The words and terms, the rituals and symbols associated with (straight) weddings reflect that, over time, (straight) married couples have lived their lives along gendered lines. He mows the lawns, she does the washing, he fixes things, she cooks meals and so on. And the words Bride and Bridegroom, as well as the litany of other wedding-related terms, have also been highly gendered. And they remain so – and that’s great, if you’re straight.

But gay and lesbian people don’t live our lives along gendered lines. Despite it being hard for some straight people to get their head around who might be the male and who might be the female in a gay relationship, that remains their problem to struggle with. But it has relevance in the wording in the Marriage Act.

At the moment, there are words in the legal vows that cause offence to gay and lesbian people. I have now married arguably more couples from the LGBTI+ community than any other celebrant. My comments that follow are based on my discussions with those couples.

“Husband” and “wife” are gendered terms. Numbers of gay and lesbian couples I have married have been angry, upset, and offended at having to use either one of those words or the equally abhorrent “spouse”. It’s like having that square that people of colour have to place an X in alongside the other square labelled “white”. It’s abhorrent – and seen as the second-best consolation prize. It’s hetero-normative and it’s inappropriate.

When I have pointed out that those are the only choices available, they have asked me to register their disapproval of that terminology.    

When I have asked what terms they’d prefer, they are quick to respond with “committed life partner” or “life partner” or “partner”.

I understand that there is a view in AGD that the word “spouse” applies to a married couple and that “partner” applies to someone who is not married.

With respect, that view is held through a straight person’s filter. Try to imagine that you’re a member of a community whose country’s legal system has denied you the right to call each other husband or wife until a few months ago. Imagine, too, that your federal legal system required celebrants to state – in front of family and friends – that even though this day of your commitment ceremony was as special as you could get because you were denied the right to get married – that this ceremony was not a legal marriage ceremony. The federal legal system rubbed our noses in it, as well as those of our families and friends.

And now that the Marriage Act has been amended to refer to “two people” being able to get married, the terminology remains the same old, tired, out-of-date, offensive, gendered terminology.  

We members of the LGBTI+ community have been forced to use terms such as de facto or partner when endeavouring to define and explain our relationships. We have done that forever. We are comfortable using those terms. Many of us are also comfortable using the term “husband” or “wife”. But just as there needs to be an inclusive approach to describing our “sex”, as outlined above, there needs to be a more inclusive approach to the legal vows. Based on my discussions with the gay and lesbian couples I have married, I’d suggest “committed life partner” or “life partner” or “partner” be added to the other three options in the legal vows. There is no need to add any other words – it could just read “lawful wedded committed life partner” or “lawful wedded life partner” or “lawful wedded partner”.

Bronte Price is Amongst the Best Australian Marriage Celebrants for Offering Customisable Ceremonies to All

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Getting married is a lengthy and complicated procedure that requires not just extra care to make your special day truly unique, but requires legalities to be handled as well. This is where Australian marriage celebrants come into play: they take the technicalities off your hands and work with you to bring your dream wedding to life. What separates the services provided by Bronte Price is the willingness to work with the LGBTI community and to offer complete customisation with regards to the ceremony you wish to set up. Where other Australian marriage celebrants might limit those they service or the range of celebrations they can create, Bronte Price keeps a non-judgemental, open mind and allows his clients to forge a ceremony entirely to meet their specifications.

Marriages are occasions that need to be carefully tailored to each bride and groom. No two weddings are alike because no two couples are the same. Figuring out exactly what you desire for your special day is no simple task and can be made a lot easier with professional assistance. While still holding true to who you are, I work to flesh out your vision while managing the logistics and legal specifications of your wedding. In short, I hold your hand through the process of bringing your vision to reality. Unless you have managed several weddings before, it can be hard to anticipate how all of the moving parts need to come together before the special day arrives. That is why it is always important to seek out the best of Australian marriage celebrants.